Don’t Force It… Just Let It Flow…
A good friend of mine was recently accepted into a prestigious business program at Cambridge University in England. She’s currently living in NYC and working at an advertising agency that she’s been with for almost a year now.
It’s not her dream job, but she is very happy with how things are going. She has been given two raises and constantly being groomed to take on more responsibility. She has become an effective team leader and highly respected by her co-workers.
She feels that if she stays in NYC and keeps at it with her job, then big things will come. But here’s the dilemma: though she wants to stay in NYC and continue working at her job, be close to her family/friends/boyfriend, and keep on making things happen, she feels obligated to go to the business school in Cambridge.
Her heart is telling her to stay, but her mind is telling her to go. My advice to was “not to force it.” In life, when you force things instead of just letting them flow or fall into place, you place unnecessary pressure on yourself and usually end up making the wrong decision in the end.
The example of my friend’s desire to “force” herself to got to England against her true feelings is something that many of us young entrepreneurs do on a daily basis while running our businesses.
We sometimes feel obligated and pressured into making decisions that we know — deep down inside — that are wrong, but yet, we do them anyway. And what happens? Well, we end up suffering. We end up being mad at ourselves. We end up putting our clients at a disadvantage.
As a leader, as an entrepreneur, and as a responsible human being, you have to be brave enough to go with your heart’s voice, not by the voice of fear, or the voice of your peers, or the voice of your family, or the voice of obligation — you must be willing to trust in yourself wholeheartedly.
When we follow our hearts and follow the feelings that make us feel that something is truly right, true, and correct, we being to make better decisions. We begin to see the world more clearly. And we begin to trust the person that we’ve known all our lives — yourself.
Good posting David,
It is true… “letting it flow” is the best way to get things done at times. I think that following your “gut” feeling about something is the only way to go. I can tell you that my gut feeling has never been wrong and the only thing that’s ever been wrong was choosing not to listen to what it was saying. Glad to see that you are keeping things running with Flush the Toilet,
Talk soon
Luc